I spoke to women last week about respecting their husbands (men in general) last week so this week is for the men. Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave Himself for her. Alright have a great day Peace…ha ha just kidding.

So what does that look like? Well I have had the privilege of living in a house with a man that love his wife like himself and I am also married to such a man. It ain’t easy for one because what God is asking men to do is to emulate Him. So, the question is what did Jesus do? In case you don’t know Jesus humbled Himself and put aside being omnipresent (being everywhere at once) and omniscient (knowing everything) and became human. Then he lived as a human for 33 years and died for the worlds sin so that whosoever (isn’t that a crazy word) believes can be cleansed of their sin and be giving a new life and relationship with God/Jesus. Heavy! Now, is God asking you to die for your wifes sins? No, because He has already done that. Is He asking you to put your life on the line for your wife? Yep. and not just physically but all of it. Jesus was humiliated, ridiculed, beaten, and died because He loved us so much and wanted the truth to be known. As a man you have to be willing to do the same. She must be precious to you just like the church is to Jesus.

Now, I must caution you don’t make your wife into a mini god that is no good. She will disappoint you and you will be crushed. In a marriage relationship there is only room for one God and that should be the true and loving God of the universe, the Holy triune God. Everything else is going to be a disappointment. She can’t fix you, she can’t save you, and she can’t complete you. All your problems will not be solved when you get married that is not how marriage works. If you do it right marriage is full filling and helps you grow into the people God intends. The only person that can fix, save and complete you is God. That is why knowing Him is the best thing you can do for your marriage and trying to Love your wife like Jesus loves the church is impossible without Him.

So if you don’t know Him ask Him for a meeting. Pray for Him to show up as you read John and I am always happy to talk just shoot me an mail: Rekeisha_dunlap@3-design.org or even post at the end here I approve all comments before they show up.

Comment I would love to hear how knowing God has changed your Marriage. Peace

Man it seems like I don’t have anything burning to talk about. I do wonder sometimes why God does certain things. I see how He is moving in places He has put me even though I am not at the level I want to be. I know He will fill the gap and I may be underestimating myself in some cases but I know that in others I am not. I sometime feel like Gideon  when God sent the angel to tell him that he was a mighty warrior and Gideon was like “Excuse me?”

Sometimes God is like “let do this” and I am like “yeah! I can do that” and then I am in the middle of it wondering  “how did I get here? This isn’t what I thought I was going to be doing” then God reminds me “I said let us do this ” and I come back to earth and follow God. It always works better that way. Well I guess I am done with my museing for today. Check me out Monday I will be sharing more Marriage tips.

P.S. comment I love hearing from you.

It is Monday again and like I said last Monday I will be giving you some marriage advice. So my tip today is for the ladies and it is all about respecting your husband.  Ephesians 5:33 says “So again I say, each man must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.” This is a hard task sometimes but it is very important to the health or your relationship and to your husband.

Respect equals love to a man.  I have unintentional disrespected my husband like asking him what he wants, but if I didn’t want to do it I would disregard it. When you don’t respect your husband he will feel that you are not acting in a loving way. My husband also says that if a man is disrespected in public you dishonor him and he may even feel shame. Which he also see as a non-loving act. These are generalizations so it is important as a wife to ask your husband about when he feels respected and when he doesn’t.

You should respect your husband no matter what he has done to you. I know that he may not be acting in a way that deserves respect but when you get married there will conflict. I am not saying that you do not explain your situation to your husband in a way that he can understand. Sometime it will take your husband awhile to understand your situation or for you to understand his point of view, but while you are doing so always be respectful. In a conflict you don’t want to make the situation worst by speaking disrespectfully because that makes if harder for your husband to see your point of view. This is why I believe it is important to have a relationship with God. He will sustain you and even guide you through these rough spots. When I have had a disagreement with my husband I have paused and prayed and collected my thoughts so as not to disrespect my him. Have I failed? Yes, but when I do I always apologize. When you know you are wrong apologize.

Now I will say that if anyone is being physically abused you should remove yourself form the situation and seek the Lord for guidance. It is not ok for him to physically hurt you and it is not ok to physically hurt your husband. Also that doesn’t mean that you can disrespect him because he has hurt you.

Your marriage should be a safe place where both of you can be free to be yourselves. Your husband will feel safe with you if you respect him. So remember that it is our jobs to be respect him because that is what he needs.

A couple of days ago my husband and I were working on some copy for 3-Design because he is a far better writer than I am. Well as we were going over his work I nixed a portion because I deemed it cheesy. Well, I must say he took offense but I assured him that I like his cheese. Still, when it comes to speaking in my voice I am not cheese. So for Valentine’s Day he sent me the below note it was so great that I had to share.

an Ode to the one I Love:

ahh… Cheese it is the gooey thing that keeps those in love together…

it is the very thing that stops up our venomous mouths from expelling hurtful things…

it is Cheese rounds, that keep us rolling, and that when hungry are perfect to share…

while cheddar might be sharp, it is the truth that sometimes needs to be spoken…

swiss being holey, only allows that much more love to fill the gap…

though very pungent and smelly, it is blue cheese that tells us that there may be something wrong…

feta is the sprinkling of character and fun in ones romance…

then there is muster is the soft comforting feeling when lovers embrace…

asiago is what keeps the relationship full of flavor and spice…

ahh… Cheese it is the gooey thing that keeps those in love together, and is what we turn to in order to express our love… so let me send you a sample plate of Cheese so that we may never come ungooed, unstopped, unmoving, unspoken, unfilled, unsmelled,  unfunned, unembraced, unflavorful…

Are you an alarm clock? You managed to wake up my sleeping heart.

I feel like a Indiana Jones, because you are the treasure I am looking for.

I looked through all the doors and I looked through all the windows but I didn’t see the sunshine until I saw you.

You remind me of a library book, because I always want to check you out.

If I had wings and I could fly, I ‘d still walk with you

Last night I looked up into the stars and matched each one with a reason why I love you. I was doing great until I ran out of stars.

I don’t know much about algebra but what i do know is you plus me equals forever.

Hi. Will you be my emergency contact?

You’re not perfect and I’ll save you the suspense. I am not perfect either…but surely we’re perfect for each other.

I’m just someone, I can’t be your everyone, but let me be your only one.

Baby, you must be a broom, cause you just swept me off my feet.

A guy who truly loves his girl doesn’t need to unbutton her shirt to get a better view of her heart.

True love is like a pair of socks: you gotta have two and they’ve gotta match.

True love doesn’t mean being inseparable; it means being separated and nothing changes.

Every girl has her best friend, boyfriend and true love but you’re really lucky if they’re all the same person.

Cute guys make you crazy. Hot guys make you drool. Cool guys make you daydream. But funny guys make you fall in love.

True love equals corniness. If you ain’t cheesy, you ain’t really in love.

ahh… Cheese it’s what makes the world of love go round, that is why is so much better when you share it, and why I am with you.

I love my husband! He is amazing because this week has been crazy and he has saved me. You may be asking how? Well last Friday I got my wisdom teeth removed. On top of that we found out Monday that my son had two ear infections and baby Bronchitis. It has been crazy.

I don’t really remember much and I am not 100% but my husband has been right there when I needed him. I couldn’t have done any of this without him. He has always been willing to get up in the middle of the night so that I can take my medicine. He has also kept Abram alive and well. Now if you looked at Abram today you wouldn’t think he was sick at all, which is not the greatest for me.

So I am a blessed woman “through sickness and health!” I made a good choice but I can’t take all the credit because God brought us together.