Saturday I had the privilege of going to the Pearl Brewery and having all kinds of fun with Alejandra and Henry. I had so much fun it would take me too long to write so I will just show you instead.

As I said last Monday, I have been studying Ephesians and as I meditated on the section about how a husband should treat his wife and visa versa.  I notice that a marriage relationship should be a safe place. Your spouse should be allowed to be his or herself as you should be free to do so. There is no competition and domination it is is just wanting the best for the other person. The picture of marriage I read was peaceful and loving and full of life. All this is impossible with out the Love of Christ inside of you because we are fallen, but with Christ we can be like Him when we love. If you have ever encountered His Love it is like no other, it is so powerful it can bring two enemies into a caring loving relationship. So what could it do with two who have promised to live the rest of their lives together? I say try it out and see.

Leave a comment and tell me how the Love of Christ has changed you.

A couple of Monday’s ago I talked about wives submitting to their husbands. Now it is the men’s turn. Men treat your lady right. Colossians 3:19 says, “Husbands, love your wives and never treat them harshly.”

So go out of your way to study her and to find out what makes her feel loved. Like yesterday my husband gave me half of his delicious pickle. I love that! He knew I like those pickles so he sacrifice his for me. We women want to be loved and cherished it may not manifest itself in the same ways but it is true for all women. Some of us are hurt and it will take us longer to feel safe enough to be loved and cherished.  As a husband you can be the love of Christ to your wife by always loving her and treating her specially. Some men may have more of a difficult time then others depending past circumstance in either spouses life.  Still, if you use the power God gives each of those who have exchanged their lives for His it will not only be a source of healing for her but help you grow to be more like God.

The more you know God the easier it is to not treat your wife harshly. He wants to give us all a new heart which changes the way we react to life. So, bring all things to Him and watch that you do not become bitter. Don’t shut down. Ask God to give you new eyes and a new heart to see your wife, and to love her as God loves His church. She may be hard to live with but don’t give up and always rely on God.

Women we can help out by respecting our husbands. Don’t be the person everyone has to handle with kid gloves. Don’t nag! If you see a problem with Him pray about it. You nagging only exacerbates the situation. The bible says Prov 21:9 It is better to live in a corner of the housetop than in a house shared with a quarrelsome wife. Prov 27:15 A continual dripping on a rainy day and a quarrelsome wife are alike; Prov 21:19 It is better to live in a desert land than with a quarrelsome and fretful woman. Prov 25:2 It is better to live in a corner of the housetop than in a house shared with a quarrelsome wife. Pray to see if you are this kind of woman and if you are pray to God to be changed.

Peace Y’all

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If you have been keeping up I told you Friday that I would be heading to the Big city. That’s when you say, “which one?”… Houston of course. I got to see my cousin Danielle get married to my new cousin Corbitt (welcome to the family Corbitt!) and also run around and and take pictures. It was a beautiful wedding they tied the knot at the Courtyard on St. James Place. The place was beautiful, the food was great, and the music was bumpin.  So, I know you didn’t come to read my ramblings (at least not right now), and I happily present to you the New Mr. And Mrs. Nixon.

Yes these two pooches are apart of the new Nixon family

Videographer Mia Productions

Florist Floral events by Bill

Cake Artist Edible Designs by Jessie

Who is your Band/DJ for the wedding Jason for Space City Entertainment

Makeup Artist Nyoka (Nyke) Green

Hair Loni Portia

Venue Courtyard on St. James Place

I am not writing this on Friday because I will be Going to Houston on tomorrow/today. Why am I going to Houston? Remember my Cousin Danielle and her fiancée Corbitt well Sunday is her wedding day! Yea! So I will be taking that three hour trek to Houston. I deiced to work on my post today (Thursday) and allow technology to help me post it today(Friday).

So on to what moved me this week. I watched something very moving. So take a gander and remember Kony 2012

Ephesians 5:22-23 Wives, submit to your own husbands as to the Lord, for the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church. He is the Savior of the body.

If you haven’t come to peace with this statement it sounds crazy. I can see you getting your mouth fixed for a quick retort. I mean we are grown women here and we have our own will, power and ability. I am woman here me roar! OK, so now that we have burned bras and stated our freedom from this “male driven society” (I am being sarcastic) let me break it down for us. (yeah, I am learning too)

This statement has nothing to do with your ability and everything to do with your humility. God knows what you can do, He made you. So relax (deep breath) here is were we need to trust in the God of all creation. He knows what He is doing! I know we like to be in control and sometimes from our position it seems like our husbands/fiances/boyfriends/guys in general may be doing all kinds of crazy. ( You are thinking, “God you want me to follow that?”) Still, God has created an order to things and God wants to see if we can trust and obey Him.

Believe it or not but Jesus knows exactly how you feel. He came down from Heaven, put aside all of His rights and privileges as God, and took on flesh. He walked around as a man and was tempted as a man. Let’s take for example the religious leaders of that day and how badly they dogged Him. They even claimed He was in league with the devil. (read Matthew) How easily do you think it would be for Him to just stand up and let them see the fullness of His authority? (I would have…yep, still have some growing to do) Still, He kept Himself in check so as to not sin and fulfill the plan that had been set out for Him. Jesus had His eyes on the bigger picture which was to eradicate sin in our lives so that we can have a relationship with Him. He also relied on the power given through the Holy Spirit to strengthen Him

So you should be asking what is the purpose of submitting to my husband? What is the end goal? To be more like Christ. God knows you are capable and that you can do so many wonderful thing, but He asks you to respect your husband and allow him to be the CEO of the house hold. This does not mean your husband doesn’t consult you or that he is THE SUPREME RULER OF ALL THINGS FAMILY. No, that is not how it works. It does mean that when he makes a decision that you need to allow him to do so and pray for his understanding. (Not just if he is”crazy”) It does mean that he needs to be leading the family in the direction of God and pray for his leadership.

Another thing I want all of us women to know. Usually we get to choose our mate. So if you can’t see yourself submitting to your boyfriend/fiancée then maybe you need to reevaluate the relationship. Are you too prideful or is he not responsible and doesn’t even care about God? In all things be prayerful and ask God, “is this the right man for me?”, and be will to pray for God will to be done. That means that if God says, “Nope, that dude is not for you,” then you have to let the man go. God is enough and His grace is sufficient in all things. So trust Him in all areas of your life.

If you don’t know God personally then I would challenge you to call on Him and ask Him to show up in your life. To show you His love and to help you to humble yourself. Admit to all of your junk and tell Him all of the junk that has happened to you or then ask Him to clean it up. He loves you enough and He wants to do this for you. Don’t wait because you don’ know how long you have.

Peace.

P.S. Let’s make this a conversation. So if you got comments or questions post them below